Marriage isn’t easy, it’s a mess. We generally hear fairy tales ending up with “They lived Happily Ever After.” In reality, it is nothing like that. Being a husband is a full-time job. Living together with one person for your whole life isn’t as easy as you think. Plus add kids, mortgage, financial issues and what not, yes it’s a mess.
And when it gets difficult, people try to find
a replacement. Instead of doing so, you should work on the things you can do to
make the marriage better. You got to be committed, not lie and fulfill the
responsibilities and also share it with your wife.
So if you love your wife and have a desire to
live a happy married life, follow the below-mentioned tips and be a better
husband your wife is looking for in you.
It’s all about Communication:
A healthy relationship is built on the basis
of a very important factor: open and honest communication; as a result of which
trust growth is also observed. Improper communication can turn simple
misunderstandings into a huge fight. Stop arguing and express yourself on a regular
basis in order to strengthen your relationship.
Do not bottle up issues inside yourself and
grow resentful. Instead of this, discuss the issues with your partner.
Knowing how to talk is not the only important
factor while communicating with your wife; you should listen to her, give her
your full attention, maintain proper eye contact and keep asking her questions
so that she knows that you are all ears.
Be willing to compromise:
It always takes efforts of both the partners
to build and maintain a healthy relationship. While you are married, you will
encounter some situations where you will have to give up on a few things so
that your partner is happy and at peace and vice-versa. Reciprocation in these
circumstances is a must otherwise it will result in resentment.
Take out some “Me Time”:
It is always advised to take out some time out
from a day and spend it alone so that you can analyze yourself and there is
nothing wrong about it. All you need to do is to make it clear to your wife
that it is not about her so, she should not take it personally.
Point to Remember: Never ever lie to her in need of space. Just tell
her the truth and she will definitely understand that you need some time alone
or need a guys time.
Be her helping hand:
According to various studies, it’s proven that
women tend to spend more hours on household work than men. You can keep a
balance and give her a hand in daily housework like vacuuming, cleaning dishes,
cleaning the house, and more. You can also be of help by taking and dropping
kids and helping them in their homework at times when your wife isn’t in a
condition to do so.
Point to Remember: You share the obligation of cleaning the house with
your wife. So just don’t wait for her to call you for help, better run and do
some work and make her happy.
Do not put all on her:
Your tight schedule doesn’t allow you to give
an excuse of not being able to contribute in daily chores. If you can’t do
much, you should at least take care of the mess you create so that it doesn’t
bother and burden her.
You can put your dirty clothes in the laundry basket;
clean your dishes and so on. If the week has consumed you, devoting a good
amount of time on the weekend can be a good option.
Small gestures can turn it around:
It is proven from various studies that the
couples who maintain physical contact remain happy in the long run. Touching
each other release a chemical called oxytocin that is a known chemical to
reduce stress and increase intimacy.
You can show love in different forms like:
Kiss her goodbye when you are going away for
the time being and hugging her when you come back to her.
Marriage is a roller-coaster which is full of
ups and downs and humor is a remedy for stress. When we keep them together,
life seems a bit easy. You don’t need to be great at it but putting a smile on
her face when she doesn’t want to smile is a win-win situation.
In order to befriend laughter for a happy
life, you can choose numerous ways like:
Booking tickets for a comedy show, organizing
a get-together or playing some sort of sports.
Laughing together is helpful as it reduces
stress, blood pressure whereas increases blood flow to the brain; all this leading
to a happy person and happy married life.
People tend to stop doing the things which
they did before getting married, which is wrong. The only way to keep you and
your spouse happy is to make each other feel special throughout your life. You
can take her to dinner, get her some beautiful dress, book movie tickets, take
a day off and fly over to some place to explore it with her, get her a bouquet
of flowers, and walk on the beach. Keep telling her through numerous ways
(leave a note in her bag or some message on the answering machine) how much you
love her and it will definitely win her over each time you put efforts.